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Author: Dan Savage
ISBN: 0525949070
Language: English
Pages: 336 pages
Category: Social Sciences
Publisher: Dutton Adult; 1st edition (September 22, 2005)
Rating: 4.2
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The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family is a non-fiction book by Dan Savage. It was first published by Dutton in 2005

The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family is a non-fiction book by Dan Savage. It was first published by Dutton in 2005. The book delves into the author's experiences with his partner Terry Miller and their adopted son as they decide whether or not to get married. Throughout the course of the book, Savage incorporates an analysis of the debate over same-sex marriage within society.

Dan Savage's column, "Savage Love," is a nationally syndicated sex-advice column read by more .

Dan Savage's column, "Savage Love," is a nationally syndicated sex-advice column read by more than four million people each week. He has written the column for eight years, and it runs in twenty-six newspapers in the United States and Canada. He also writes "Dear Dan," an online advice column for ABCNews. So attractive was commitment, so appealing was the prospect of family life, that even gay men and lesbians were embracing them! But unlike all the good-looking straight guys out there who've come to see being lusted after by gay men as a compliment (hello there, Ashton Kutcher), social conservatives refuse to take the compliment.

The Seattle Times" -Savage's ?Savage Love? column runs in more than seventy newspapers in the United States, Canada, Europe, and Asia. Like the best political comedians, Dan Savage is a frank and honest storyteller whose comedy is funny but always insightful and necessary. Dan has appeared on "The Al Franken Show" on Air America, "Paula Zahn Now" on CNN, "20/20," MSNBC, and VH1.

In my opinion, "The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My. .Clever and witty, informative and surprisingly fair to all points of view on this sensitive topic, Savage's book is persuasive without being preachy or condescending.

Clever and witty, informative and surprisingly fair to all points of view on this sensitive topic, Savage's book is persuasive without being preachy or condescending.

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Dan Savage’s mother wants him to get married. His boyfriend, Terry, says no thanks because he doesn’t want to act like a straight person. Their six-year-old son DJ says his two dads aren’t allowed to get married, but that he’d like to come to the reception and eat cake

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Dan Savage takes on the topic of gay marriage as he explores his own relationship and his family's reaction to the . The Commitment is billed as a hilarious romp through the world of gay marriage

Dan Savage takes on the topic of gay marriage as he explores his own relationship and his family's reaction to the possibility of getting married. kateminasian, November 22, 2014. The Commitment is billed as a hilarious romp through the world of gay marriage. Instead it is mostly an angry rant about the restrictions and prejudices faced by homosexuals today. While I agree with all his points it felt a bit like having someone endlessly trying to convince me of something I already agree with.

A syndicated sex-advice columnist and the editor of Seattle's The Stranger shares his coming-to-terms with the public act of marriage and how it affects the gay community, in a memoir that describes the legal and personal ramifications stemming from his own efforts to pursue a faithful relationship. 40,000 first printing.
Comments (7)
Drelalen
I appreciate Dan Savage a lot. He takes difficult topics that we take for granted as being easy every day-- like relationships. I appreciate how open and honest Dan is about his own life in sharing his philosophies. What I like most is that I walk away from his writing feeling human, humble and peaceful. It's so challenging reading all the various books on commitment and a successful relationship that write unrealistic things like- desiring only your partner, honesty means sharing every detail of your life-- and various things that can be more damaging than healing. Simply put, Dan Savage gives me the courage to be the human that I am and the peace of mind that I am human.
Thanks Dan!!
Direbringer
If you are like me, you may feel you are already overdosing on the "gay marriage issue", which has apparently replaced "gays in the military" as the hot-button issue for politicians, journalists, talk-show hosts, religious-(not)right bigots and many gay activists. Though I have heard of Dan Savage and read a couple of brief articles of his on Salon.Com, I have not seen his column or previous books, but earlier reviews of this book sparked my interest.

In my opinion, "The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family" should be required reading for anyone, on either "side", who wants to debate the right of same-sex couples to wed. It is an intelligent, realistic and often hillarious first-person account of the author's own experience in reconciling the concept of gay marriage with his own successful relationship with Terry, his partner of ten years, with whom he has adopted a son, "D.J." now six years old. While the author shares the minority opinion that gay couples should be allowed to marry, and supports the limited laws that permit this in Massachusetts, Canada and many foreign countries, he's not quite sure he and Terry would decide to wed. Between his own concerns that it might "jinx" the successful relationship he already has, his partner sees it as gay men "posing" as straights, and his son, a budding "metal head" who, while he loves his "two dads" very much ... and would definitely partake of the cake after the ceremony ... thinks the idea of two men saying "I Do" and kissing is just too "Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww" for his taste.

Enter the Savage family from the south side of Chicago, including Dan's divorced parents (father is a conservative Republican, mother is a liberal who pushes the couple to marry), and his three siblings (straight, but two of the three are "shacking up" without the formality of marriage.) Mix in extensive research on the subject for Dan's column, including details of recent right-wing antigay legislation, as well as viewing the Bravo series on "Gay Weddings" which isn't exactly comforting to someone thinking of having one, and Dan and Terry conclude it might be a better idea to just get matching tatoos, certifying they "belong" to each other. But that didn't work out real well for Angelina Jolie, did it?

Clever and witty, informative and surprisingly fair to all points of view on this sensitive topic, Savage's book is persuasive without being preachy or condescending. The book builds up to the couple's ten year anniversary party, which would be an ideal time for them to marry, if they were so inclined (and which Dan's mother is strongly lobbying in favor of.) The "will they or won't they" makes the latter half of the book a delightful page-turner, with clever touches that make the book especially memorable.

Highly recommended. Also a perfect gift for anyone you feel needs an education on the subject.
Usanner
I think it was an earlier book by Mr. Savage that I described as "you'll laugh, you'll cry, you'll blow milk out your nose..." but I'd like to use that line again.

Savage is a damn good writer -- ironic, witty, smart, funny, tender, acerbic and eerily moralistic for a man living with another man and writing about sex for a living. Oh well, it's the contradictions that give him depth.

He makes much of the fact that, of his siblings, he's the most traditional. His brothers and sister chide him that, in his family, he's the most prudish among them. And he makes fun of himself because, in his own family of boyfriend and son, he's the stereotypically gay one who cries at weddings and light romantic comedies. What a sap.

Much of the book of course is a meditation on marriage -- a rather recent (12th Century) invention of the Church designed to bind parishioners to their parish -- and why being denied that silly piece of paper makes it seem so much more seductive.

Savage takes predictable jabs at the illogic of so-called "Defense of Marriage" legislation... at adoption forms with spaces for "mother" and for "father"... and at the current administration for packaging their Calvinistic fear of hedonism as a "family value." But he also writes clearly and concisely about the nature of love, the dignity of commitment and the importance of having defensible values in this crazy world.

In the end when you're writing a memoir (as Savage has done 3 times now) it's important to come off as "likable" because otherwise nobody is going to give a poop what you think or feel. To Savage's credit, I have long considered him one of my closest friends even though we've never formally met.
Bil
Not my favorite Savage book, but worth reading after you finish "The Kid". I enjoyed the scenes with his mother on vacation after her "triple" margaritas. I also loved the ones pertaining to his cross-country trip with his spouse and son (worrying about getting bashed for seeming effeminate while walking a little dog--both sad and funny to imagine someone trying to "butch" it up in this situation). There were several memorable scenes now that I think about it. I did laugh aloud at this book, as I do with all writings by this author. Oh, and keep reading after "the end".
Eayaroler
Excellent book about gay marriage, straight marriage, and commitments in general. Savage is an excellent writer and, while I share his view that gay people should be allowed to marry so I'm not exactly unbiased, I think that anyone on the fence about this issue would be swayed by his story. In fact, probably many who are opposed to gay marriage would be swayed by his story too (or perhaps I'm too optimistic here). The chapter in which he easily obtains a wedding license with a lesbian woman after telling the clerk that they are both homosexuals who live with other people and who have no intention of ever living together (but they have the $$ and are of opposite genders and that's all that matters!) speaks volumes.

Highly recommended, for fans of Savage Love and Dan Savage's other books, and for everyone else too.